A large majority of reported abuse victims end up with scars and long lasting injuries. But these “scars” are not necessarily visible to the human eye and sometimes barely detectable—they manifest themselves in emotional traumas and go much deeper than any injury of the flesh. We have a responsibility to identify potential risk factors and to take action if necessary.

The warning signs are everywhere and given the statistics, an abusive relationship is far more common than people may think. The victim has a responsibility; while persons who witness the inappropriate behavior, also have a similar responsibility to be there for this person, to console them, and aid them in their future decisions.
 
We believe it is up to the victim to acknowledge that there stands a problem within the relationship. Others can see signs, but only the victim can make the decision to break up with an abusive boyfriend or girlfriend. Somebody else can certainly intercede on behalf of the victim, but if the victim is unwilling to end the relationship, the best thing for friends and family to do is to talk to the victim and stand by him or her. Only when the victim is in physical danger should others take immediate action.

One in four teenagers report having been isolated from friends or family throughout the course of a serious relationship. Even though this may not be an imminent red flag for a seriously abusive relationship, it is something that should be taken into careful consideration. It is a good idea to approach someone who may be potentially at risk for more violent incidents.

It is up to the person being victimized to end an abusive relationship. These individuals are in control of their own destination. However, the bystander also has a responsibility to be there for the victim.