Taylor informed her audience of her job at the Middle Way House, which is a domestic violence program and rape crisis center. The agency aims to support those who have experienced domestic violence or abuse.

Middle Way House also offers an emergency domestic violence shelter for women and children under the age of 18, and transitional housing for those trying to escape violence and homelessness.

Taylor also elaborated on the uses of the agency’s crisis hot line, open 24/7; the Rape Crisis Center; and the euphemism used to describe victims of abuse.

“As an agency, we at Middle Way House try to use survivor as much as possible because we feel like it’s more empowering. The word victim acknowledges what one person did to someone else and sort of defines that person by someone else’s actions against them,” said Taylor.

Her presentation focused on recognizing and preventing abuse, and examining its causes and mistaken causes. The main types of abuse emphasized in her lecture were physical, sexual, emotional, economic, and the influence of children.

She addressed the listeners about some of the less obvious warning signs of abuse: withdrawal, depression, and fear of one’s partner. As students snapping pictures ducked in and out of the audience, Taylor continued to talk about the reasons people don’t always leave abusive relationships.

Usually the survivor loves the perpetrator and there are good parts of the relationship. Many times the survivor does not recognize their partner’s behavior as abuse. They are used to being told it is their fault, so they believe it, but according to Taylor, ”Fear is the number one reason people don’t leave abusive relationships.”

When it came to aiding friends or family with instances of abuse, Taylor expressed the importance of just listening to the survivor. She was adamant that allowing them to make important decisions like who to tell, whether to report the abuse, and how or when to end the relationship is essential.

She emphasized the importance of the survivor regaining control of his or her life. If it comes down to a life or death situation, the bystander can break confidence, but should talk to the survivor about it first.

“What this presentation has done is make me more inclined to see these kinds of relationships. In all likelihood, someone I know could be in one and I wouldn’t know it!” said HSJI student Conor Gearin.

After the presentation’s conclusion, numerous students took the opportunity to ask Taylor questions in a press conference setting. Many of the questions focused around abusive possibilities like mutual abuse or how much power is normal in relationship.

Taylor answered many of the questions with the definition of teen dating abuse: a systematic pattern of beliefs and behaviors when one person has power over the other in a relationship.

By: Conor Gearin and Mike Majchrowicz

The role of journalists is to seek out the truth and report it; Lauren Taylor, a volunteer at Middle Way House, reminded the students at the High School Journalism Institute at Indiana University Bloomington that their pursuit of the truth extends to their personal lives as well—that they should never overlook injustice in any situation.  

Taylor presented on teen dating abuse, the injustice her organization fights against. Though many of the students have heard presentations about unhealthy relationships, the presentation deepened their understanding of the issue, giving them ways of identifying abusive relationships among their friends and family and a firsthand account of dating abuse.

Taylor, who graduated from Indiana University Bloomington in 2005, majored in History and Political Science. She believes her major allowed her to focus on social movements and change, which she can now help to bring about through her work as a youth advocate at Middle Way House.

For Taylor, her work at Middle Way House is not merely a job, but a vocation. Though she was not personally involved in an abusive relationship, Taylor witnessed friends suffering from controlling partners. This experience motivated her to work for victims of abuse and led her to Middle Way House, an organization that provides services to victims of abuse and aims to prevent abuse by educating young people about the issue, as in Taylor’s presentation.

In addition to education programs, Middle Way House, based in Bloomington, Ind., runs a 24/7 hotline for anyone in need of counseling or immediate assistance for matters of relationship health. Middle Way House also runs a domestic violence crisis center, a rape crisis center, and transitional facilities for victims and their families who are not financially ready to handle the crisis; the center keeps advocates on staff who specialize in law practice for victims in need of legal services.

Taylor wanted to debunk the myth that dating abuse is always physical abuse—mental and emotional abuse can be just as scarring, though less visible to others. People often do not realize that their friends are victims.

“Even if they do recognize that it’s abuse, they may not recognize that it’s as serious as it is,” said Taylor.

According to Taylor, one in five girls in a serious relationship worries about being physically abused by their partner. However, not all abuse takes this form—one in four teens say that their boyfriend or girlfriend has kept them from spending time with friends or family and instead pressured their partner to stay with them.

The presentation included a video of a girl named Anya, who was abused as a young teenager by two boyfriends. Taylor used the video to illustrate that, as in Anya’s case, abuse often takes the form of possessive jealousy and isolating the victim from others, even when physical abuse does not occur.

Taylor explained that while healthy relationships are based on equality and good communication, unhealthy relationships are based on power and control.  A common way to tell if someone is being abused is if he or she seems depressed, ashamed to talk about his or her relationship, or denies that he or she is being mistreated, Taylor said. Abusive partners often behave with extreme jealousy, constantly demanding to know where their boyfriends or girlfriends are or keeping them from seeing other people their age or even the victim’s own family.

Taylor said the most important thing to do if one thinks a friend or family member is being abused is to talk to the victim about the problem.

 “A lot of times people haven’t had the chance to explain or talk about what they’re going through,” said Taylor. However, while it is important for a friend to express concern, the friend must also allow the victim to make his or her own choices, empowering rather than controlling him or her—only if the victim’s physical safety is in danger should one break confidentiality with the victim and tell an authority, according to Taylor.

 “You may think that your friend needs to leave the relationship right now. But even though those are your beliefs, it’s really important, instead of taking control, when someone else is trying to control them, to let them regain control over their own lives and make those choices for themselves,” Taylor said.

Taylor said that her audience has a responsibility to fight against dating abuse.

“We think that there’s a lot of ways that you and me as people in general, in the community and schools, as journalists who might be covering these kinds of issues, can stand up and speak out about this, and call attention to an issue that we think is really important,” said Taylor.

Students said that the presentation included many things they had heard before but also provided valuable new perspectives on the issue.

“I’ve heard of Middle Way before and I’ve gotten the presentation,” said Ellie Fuqua of Bloomington High School South. However, she said that the video of Anya, which she had not seen before, had a big impact on her due to its personal story. “My opinions haven’t changed, but I think I know more information,” Fuqua said.

Brad Morrison of Jennings County High School agreed with Taylor that mental and emotional abuse is just as real as physical abuse, but he believes that physical abuse is still more damaging than other forms. “I think that if you are physically abused, then … you get the mental abuse,” he said. However, Morrison said that the presentation prepared him to see the signs of all forms of dating abuse.

“I feel like all the warning signs that she gave us can definitely help,” said Alex Schwent of Avon High School. Schwent echoed Taylor, saying that friends “may not realize that they are in abusive relationships,” but knowing the warning signs, one is able to recognize abuse and help the victim.